life
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AN OUTSIDER’S DIARY
Life as a black AuDHD man. Some days I wonder what it feels like to belong. Not simply to exist in a place, but to arrive somewhere and never once question whether I deserve to be there. I have spent so much of my life trying to find that feeling that I sometimes wonder whether… Continue reading
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Visibility is no longer vanity but a responsibility.
Quiet, Polite, Measured, Humble. That was the version of me that was most likable. The version that believed that having an opinion was dangerous, and expressing it was arrogance. I thought strength should always be hidden because anything visible risked becoming pride, where I come from, people mistake timidity for humility and silence for virtue.… Continue reading
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Captain Masifa.
I am an incredibly difficult yet the simplest person there is; I don’t need anyone to tell me that. I don’t like people, and the feeling is very mutual. In fact, when I was about to get married, people who knew me personally actually felt sorry for Captain. The one question they kept asking was,… Continue reading
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I AM A FAILURE
I often tell people that I am a failure in life, but I’ve never quite found the right words to explain what I truly mean. Hopefully, this will. My productivity falls far off the scale of my abilities. To be clear, I do not have unrealistic expectations of myself and I do not put undue… Continue reading
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As a kid, I drank from this very stream. The water smelled strongly cow piss. In fact, during dry seasons, we had to dig through the sand to reach water level deep down. Brown water, filled with debris and things no human should survive on. Yet we drank it anyways. I often say that I… Continue reading
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THE COST OF SELF AWARENESS
I live by very simple principles. Those closest to me me know one of these to be how I won’t stop talking about this ‘unwritten social contract’. To me, we all have an obligation in every human relationship. Not contractual one, but I genuinely believe that if our paths cross, even for a moment, we… Continue reading
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CONFORMITY SUFFOCATES ME
My whole life, I learnt to follow the norm, do everything like everyone else was doing, that is the standard, even when some things made absolutely no sense to me. It has made me question my own knowledge, my self-esteem, my abilities, everything. On August 2, 2024, after years of self-doubt, I was diagnosed. Since… Continue reading
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Finding the courage to stand in my truth, even when others don’t see the struggle behind it.
I have felt isolated for the best part of 2 years now even in the midst of family and friends. Many of you have this notion that, since l was able to cope fine with undiagnosed neurodivergence for the first 33 years of my life, why am 1 suddenly making a big fuss about it… Continue reading
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YOU WON’T WIN AGAINST A MINIMALIST.
About this time last year, an oyibo colleague tried to convince me to go get a tattoo. Apparently he’s been thinking of getting tattoos himself for years but either kept procrastinating or never found the courage to actually get it over with, So he needed a wing man, a source of encouragement 😅 He, and… Continue reading
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BOYS ARE ALLOWED TO PUNCH!
Not Wealth, money, attention, not even contentment is a cure for poverty. If they were, the Kardashians wouldn’t still be working so hard. I am a feminist and boy! What a past couple of days it has been for us. Because, tell me, how do you begin to explain to a girl child that Charisma,… Continue reading
DIVERGENT CORNER 